This letter is from an 11-year old, born into the military who has moved 6 times and counting. Who has attended 4 schools, lived in an array of houses with and without family in between transitions, has gone thru 5 bikes and countless friends and boxes of tissues!!
Dear people who don’t know what a being a military kids all about,
I want people to know that being a military kid is like having your home in your book bag taking your things out everyday to do work and putting it back in your back pack over and over again and again and never having a locker.
It’s not comparable to other kids who are not in the military at all. It’s hard to move and make new friends; it’s hard to have favorite places because you know you’re going to move. You end up having a million BFF’s, seriously. Its always hard to fit in at school because everywhere you go kids and cultures are different. The other hard thing is when my daddy leaves its really breaks my heart. Because I miss him lots and he is gone and don’t know if he is safe all the time. I also don’t spend a lot of time with my uncles and other family because we live far away. Its stressful not to know what’s going to happen next.
Oh the brighter side of things! I get to see lots of places and do really cool stuff every time I move that I would not have done if I didn’t move. Some people don’t do anything – just stay in the same place all their life. Which is ok…I mean if that makes them happy. I meet lots of interesting people who are all very different. I get to redecorate my room all over again when I move. And I get new stuff when the movers break it, I really like that!! I think that’s fun. Sometimes when we move we are close to family and get to see them. I like that a lot.
I think being a military child is good, stressful, fun, sacrificing, interesting, and I have to be BRAVE, that’s what my mom says all the time…
Month of the Military Child
When I read this, it not only makes me sad but also makes me proud!!! They are our little soldiers, they are so BRAVE. Yes, that’s me always telling my kids to be BRAVE! There’s no wonder why every year the month of April is dedicated to celebrate the military child.
However, I have never really done a celebration for my Military Kids. How do we (military parents) celebrate the military child? I posed this question to many military parents and they said, “It’s just another month, another day…nothing special.” I say, “This has to change!”
They at least deserve something, so this year I have planned to do at least 3 things to show my Military Kids they matter, that their sacrifices don’t go unseen, heard or felt.
I encourage you to do the same, if you can. It doesn’t have to be spectacular. But just make it all about them!
When I asked my 11 year old, “How could we show her appreciation?” she said,
“A PARTY!!!!” I figure that’s easy enough, RIGHT??
So, that’s #1- A Party!! Just the family. My kids love candy, popcorn, movies and pizza add a movie and games. BAM you have A PARTY!!
#2- Family Craft – Maybe making bracelets that say military kid, initials of states they have lived or their names spelled out for them to wear. Kids love crafts and it will be about them.
#3- April 15th – We are definitely going to PURPLE UP! Wear purple to show your support for the military child on this day!! Take pictures and hashtag it with #PurpleUp!
I hope that this year for the Month of the Military Child you change it up a bit and participate in celebrating our little soldiers! However, wherever, whenever JUST Celebrate…
About the Author:
Moni is a proud Puerto Rican Air Force Spouse and mother of 3 brilliant children, that has found time as a SAHM to finish her Bachelors in Public Relations. She has moved over 13 times as an Army brat and now an Air force MilSpouse. This has allowed her to see things from different views. During her husbands last deployment, she was inspired to write about her military lifestyle from a candid, sassy, bold and witty perspective. She hopes that by sharing her experiences that it will encourage other spouses to find their voice in this journey of constant change and uncertainty……all this has been accomplished with buckets of prayer, glasses of wine and a few colorful words.